Bella Tonks

Yes, you read that read dear f-list.

Harry Potter can't be gay.

My eyes have been opened so very wide this morning at this epiphany. At this startling, awe inspiring revelation.

And how did I come to discover this?

Well, it's simple.

I received an email the other day from a mod of a new up and coming HP based RPG - enigma_rpg - asking permission to use a stock photo that I had used when darkesthour_rpg was running. I kind of had to laugh because I don't own that stock photo and I have no rights over it, but understanding the reason for the email and appreciating the consideration in asking I was all for emailing back "yeah sure, go for it. My game isn't running, good luck on yours."

But, of course being the curious person that I am I looked into the game first. I was dubious when I saw they would be using the Mary Sue Checklist, for reasons in an excellent resource which can be read here

Then, I saw THIS. For those who are not inclined to click on links, it reads as follows:

Slash is welcome, but be realistic, not everyone is gay or bi and the world is, unfortunately, not always open to homosexuality. Also note that the sexuality that is given to a character in canon it can't be ignored (ie Harry can be bi, but not gay as he fancies Ginny and Cho in canon). In line with this, any canon relationship must be addressed. Smut is wonderful, but not in every thread. In addition the mods reserve the right to mock bad smut, please feel free to do the same.

*blinks*

I'm sorry, what?

Harry can be bi, but not gay as he fancies Ginny and Cho in canon

I had no idea that human sexuality could be so black and white! My gods, here all this time I was thinking so differently.

Now, I know that Harry is just a character. He's a figment of a very wealthy and rather unorganized woman's imagination. But let's just sit back and think on the implication of that statement.

Because a character has, in the all mighty canon, fancied two girls during his formative years - he can't be gay. Nope, sorry - even though those relationships with those girls can have fallen horribly to pieces (an in the case of Cho, did) - there is no way according to these rules that a person can write Harry as having discovered that he is in fact gay because - oh my gods - he fancied two girls at one point.

This game is a game that is canon compliant minus the epilogue, incidentally, so the fact that Harry marries Ginny in the epilogue and they even have children is moot. BUT, that being said, it wouldn't matter if Harry married Ginny, had thousands of fat, happy babies because if he discovered late in life that he was truly and honestly in fact gay...

Who are we to dictate his sexuality?

Frankly, I don't even care if you want to write him getting his rocks off with the Giant Squid, or routinely tapped Dobby back at Hogwarts. Hey, whatever turns you on have it. Because you should have the choice to do so.

I understand about wanting to have variety in one's game. Having a majority of male characters who only have teh buttsecks is frankly boring in this writer's opinion. I understand that completely.

However, don't try and sell to me your misguided reasoning of why a man cannot be gay and try and pigeonhole things in the terms of sexuality.

I may be taking this way too seriously, and perhaps you're right considering it's a Monday morning, I'm on my heavy flow day of my menstrual cycle and I've only had one cup of tea. However, just the implication that a man (even a fictional one!) cannot be gay because he, in the past, has fancied, been attracted or even had sex with two females...

That, my friends, is just staggering to me.

So, now that my eyes have been opened to this there are a few of my gay male friends I have to write some emails off to. Particularly my friend Phil, who back in highschool had several crushes on women, myself included, and dated one of my friends for two years (which, from my understanding, was a sexual relationship), but after high school came out of the closet and brilliantly told us all that he was gay and we love him no less, but even more for being true to himself.

I wonder how he'll take it when I tell him that his full on gayness isn't a possibility and that he can only be bisexual at most.

Should be an interesting conversation.

(and incidentally my blithe feelings regarding the stock photo diminished quite quickly after all of this)

You know you write slash when...

You're driving into work and the construction sign that reads "Raised Manholes" only reminds you of a Weasley brother's bare arse stuck high up in the air as he's being rimmed.

lol

Lots of things have been happening since the end of June regarding our cats. We had two - Hermes (black) and Loki (orange) - seen here:



but we also introduced a new addition to our little family, a little white male kitten who we've named Zeus:





He's now three months old, our guestimation considering we rescued him as he was dumped off in front of my sister-in-law's Avondale Store. He's a holy terror, but a very affectionate little bugger as well.

Yesterday we also had Hermes have a wee visit with the Vet because of a growth on the back of his leg. It had started bleeding the other day, which concerned us - but the vet assured us it was not cancer or any other bad thing. It's actually a benign growth and something very rare in cats - a skin tag. The vet was actually giddy in discovering it because Hermes is the second cat she's known/seen in the 15 years of being a vet to have one.

So yeah - our cat has a rare, freaky skin tag. Go figure *shakes head, laughing* But, it's given us a lot of peace of mind now that we know what it is. We'll still keep an eye on it and it's no problem to have it lopped off if it becomes a problem for Hermes so that's good news as well.

( Cut For Those Who Didn't Catch It )

If you've wandered over here from the friending frenzy at phoenix_flies, welcome! Here's a little bit about me:

Name: Bella
Age: Over 18 and 21
Pets: 2 Cats
Marital Status: 1 Husband
Children: 0
Occupation: Law Clerk

Favourite Food: Sushi, Pizza, anything Italian, Thai, Pub Food (especially on a cold, rainy day)
Favourite Drink: Gingerale, Mead
Favourite Song: Annie's Song - John Denver
Favourite Books: Harry Potter, Outlander series (Diana Gabaldon), Liquor (Poppy Z. Brite)
Favourite Movies: Harry Potter 1-5; LOTR, Disney Classics like Freaky Friday and The Cat from Outerspace, musicals and anything with Christian Bale
Favourite Colour: Green

Top 5 Male Celebrities I Would Shag: Christian Bale, Viggo Mortensen, Sean Bean, Sean Maher and Zach Ward
Top 5 Female Celebrities I Would Shag: Eva Green, Jewel Staite, Helena Bonham-Carter, Miranda Otto and Scarlett Johansen

Anything Else: Pagan and Proud, Childfree by Choice (but don't get me wrong - I think children are adorable for the most part), Liberal, Anti-Bush, Stewart/Colbert for 2008, lover not a fighter, dislike labels on sexuality, thinks marriage is for everyone who wants to marry, omnivore, says "bloody" a lot, Scots/Irish heritage.

Greetings flist!

Well, it's been quite a while since I posted, but I've been a very busy bee this past couple of weeks.

Last week I experienced my first American Thanksgiving. My hubby, shadowhawck and I visited friends in Michigan all last week, which was my first bit of time off in about 5 years. It was slightly different from our Canadian Thanksgiving, but I think most of that is attributed to the fact that the U.S. celebrates it so close to Christmas. I had green bean casserole for the first time, and it was very tasty. So, I hope everyone else who celebrated had a good time with family and friends, or even a quiet evening with a loved one or even loved pets.

In other exciting news, darkesthour_rpg's Beta run is set to begin on Wednesday, November 28th!!!!! We're very excited to get started, and the Beta will be open posts so watchers can read along for the next month, and comment in darkestwatchers. Stay tuned for the date when open casting will commence - there are a TON of characters that need players, including, but not limited to, Harry Potter, Ron Weasley, Arthur Weasley, Molly Weasley, Bill Weasley, Fleur Weasley, any characters that were involved in Dumbledore's Army and many more.

So aside from all the exciting stuff, it's Monday. *sigh*

( Criminal Minds Spoilers )

I know I'm able to just squeak this in by the skin of my teeth.

I hope everyone has had a blessed Samhein.

DVD playing right now is Rob Roy.

Gods do I love that movie. Not only is Liam Neeson just mwrawr sexy, but as a Scots? *melts*

I always get wibbly near the end when he goes to do his final fight and his wife asks him:

What if you do not return to us?

and he replies:

If it's a boy, call him Robert.
If a lass,
name her for my love... Mary McGregor.

Ugh - so good. *is all fangirlish*

Bella - a pound of intelligence - 1 1/2 cups of wealth - a dash of friendliness Mix on high, and serve immediately.

'What is your personality recipe?' at QuizGalaxy.com

If anyone on my flist has a fic rec or rec list for Charlie/Tonks, Bill/Tonks or Charlie/Tonks/Bill I am really pining for some right now. Maybe I'm just looking in the wrong places, but I can't seem to find much of them.

My lower back has been aching and paining me for the past few days. I would blame it on PMS and such, but I know that's not the reason. I know if I go to the doctor all he would say is that I need to lose weight (because that's a given - duh). Ugh *crank, bitch, moan*

The husband had now added a Supernatural RPG onto his rp repetoire. His character is basically Dean Winchester with a fire axe. Of course as he was enthusiastically explaining the details of this RPG I nodded attentively, whilst the entire time I kept imagining Dean, shirtless, swinging said fire axe. I never said as such because men just don't appreciate such vivid imagery from their wives.

I think now that the days are getting shorter and it getting darker sooner, it has been screwing with my inner time clock. I'm having a bitch of a time getting up in the morning, and last night I thought it was 10 p.m., when really it was only 7.

The Ontario provincial election is over and the Liberals are back in with a majority government. McGuinty has promised to give us a statutory holiday in February - calling it "Family Day". I'm not going to look a long weekend in the mouth, but I was hoping that he would reinstate eye exams and chiropractic visits back into OHIP. I guess that would be asking for too much, though.

I taste like Bread. I am a staple in almost everyone's diet. Friends like me are a complement to any other friends I get on with almost everyone, remaining mostly in the background, but providing substance when it would otherwise be lacking. What Flavour Are You?

I have just cleaned out the company fridge.

Whatever died in there I have now given it a proper burial.

*barfs*

For everyone on my f-list who's dealing with a lot of RL issues at the moment:



*huggles you all*

Drabble written for weasleytwins100:

http://asylums.insanejournal.com/weasleytwins100/7037.html

In other news, I picked up some watercolour paints yesterday at Michael's and I'm half-way done another dishcloth.

And my back hurts *curses being a woman*

How much do I love Jann Arden? Of all the girl crushes I have, she's pretty tops on my list and it has nothing to do with the physical aspect. I think Emma Thompson in Love Actually said it best about Joni Mitchell: "I love her. And true love lasts a lifetime."

The woman is nothing short of amazing in concert - I think even better than on her records. She has a realness about her that you feel you could sit in the same room with her and talk like you were best friends. I love those sorts of people - the kind that make you feel totally comfortable and human. There needs to be more people in the world like that.

Here's my favourite song of hers, one which the last time I heard it live I was with my now husband and nothing could stop me from tearing up:

I would die for you

Merry Mabon to all. Autumn has arrived and I am deliriously happy for that. C'mon trees - time to put on that make-up and show us how gawgeous you are.

The hubby and I are celebrating our wedding anniversary tomorrow. We aren't doing anything special, other than spending time with each other. I took the evening off from work (yay!)

I've almost completed my sample dishcloth with the bat in the middle. It's so adorable - can't wait to post it. The chart for the pentacle dishcloth is done, so I'm going to start on that one next. Unfortunately, I think I've overdone it with the knitting as my hands are a bit swollen today - so much so that I had to take off my wedding/engagement bands.

We're watching Casino Royale on the telly right now. I think I have most of the dialogue memorized by now. Not voluntarily either ;)

ETA: A Field Guide to the Modern Pagan - very amusing read: http://www.livingwithmagick.com/fieldguide.php

This always happens to me.  I get really interested and going on knitting or crochet projects and I don't have the money to continue them, especially when I'm REALLY wanting to.  I've discovered the joy of knitting dishcloths, and am in the middle of mapping out a dishcloth with a pentacle in the middle.  But I have no cotton yarn!  *woe*  I've had to resort to practicing with acrylic in the meantime.  Currently one of my cats is using a completed one as a hat.  He's not impressed.

Watched Silent Hill last night with hubby and mother.  That is one fucked up movie.  I enjoyed it but still...yikes.  At least it had Sean Bean in it to keep my interest *drools*

On a random note, I love having hair so curly that when I braid it into pigtails I don't even need to bind the ends with elastics. :P